feeling inadequate

Last night I was feeling so inadequate as a mother, which I suppose comes with the territory. Tony and I talked about it and he said where he lacks I am strong and where I lack he is strong. He said while he is great with staying up with him and making him giggle and having lots of fun with him. I am great at teaching him and being consistent with each skill he needs to learn. I’m not good at staying up with him in the middle of the night when he just can’t sleep but Tony is. Tony is not good with making sure he gets his baths and daily tummy time but I am. I suppose it’s a balancing act. And we both have our strengths

But I still felt inadequate in some way so I got to thinking and I think I figured it out. Most mothers have war stories about how they are the main providers. How the fathers do nothing and are lazy in areas where the baby in concerned. But that is not the case with Tony he gives 200% always. So I have no war stories, but is that a reason to feel inadequate. Tony shares all the responsibilities with me he does everything that a father “should” do. When he’s tired I take over when I’m tired he takes over. The balance works so well sometimes that I feel like I should join the ranks of the “real” mothers and be doing more then him. Oh I can’t explain this properly… but I get what I’m trying to say.